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Secrets to a Better Relationship with that Special Person
By: Bruce O, and Sophia H | October 16, 2023
What we hope to achieve by co-writing this article is to reunite man with his natural partner—the woman. We are enthusiastic about our attempts to help loving partners understand one another on a more conscience level, as well as sexually through a simple conversation about each of our autonomous experiences.
We want to take you on a journey through the mental and the sexual entanglements of real heart felt emotional love and sexual well-being. My name is Bruce, and I will provide you my take first on relationships and impart some of the things I gleamed from my own relationship and its “intrinsic romantic intricacies.”
For starters, I have found initially when a woman finds a man she is interested in, she looks first for certain meaningful characteristic in him. Her first impression comes from a deep emotional sense of who he is and how [his] inner self aligns with her internal spirit. The light that guides all thing belonging or associated with her. She desire a person who presents himself in a dignified, respectful, caring, and loving manner. Who wouldn’t? Someone who is classy, neat, and groomed to perfection.
Unfortunately, many of today’s guys think that their genital organs are a mystical magic wand that will command a woman’s attention and love alone, and at will. All he must do is to make crude gestures in her direction and poof… she’s his. The magic dragon has slayed another victory with an unsuspecting woman. No, No, No… and absolutely Not. That may work with an overly sensuous or promiscuous woman for a brief time, but for the keeper… the man’s Queen, she is someone who will command respect.
She frowns on the lascivious or adulterous woman or man, seeing them both as opportunist and ultimately family intruders and potential home wrecker among other things, which I will not mention — such as the ubiquitous garden tool —”the hoe.” Oops, my bad. Damn… those “Freudian Slips” of Sigmund Freud — they seem to always imperil me deeper in trouble. More importantly, please know there are no unpleasant “naturally” created woman.
Nonetheless, the ideal woman and Queen for me is an educated, financially stable, and a self-actualizing lady, looking for someone who she can trust, play and laugh with. Moreover, a woman I can build a new, or sustain an existing family life until eternity. Someone who will be there for the good times as well as the bad. And trust me there will be many bad… especially as we age.
But the best part of aging is the memories we accumulated over the years as we reminisce in the recollection of those enjoyable events of the past. And as for the sex, some think it’s all downhill, but a senior with much experience in these matters told me that as the man becomes more mature, his appetite for sex changes as it become more tasty. It becomes a preference in terms of one’s continuation of making that special women happy, and thoroughly satisfied, or not.
I noticed the perils of dangerous interactions from disloyal partners in a relationship. In particular, in my travels, I’ve noticed “some” men’s unwavering predilection for multiple sex partners, even while in a relational encounter or married [which is unfathomable]. A move which in highly egregious, unfaithful, and will absolutely destroy a relationship. It is a move that’s normally associated with men due to their somewhat low emotional inclination and their heavy reliance on the physical attributes of women. As for the female counterpart, they have strong emotional ties to their male partner, and inclined to commit to only one partner — having total exclusivity in their romantic engagement.
However, another dealbreaker in a relationship is that of an insecure jealous women with no bases for not trusting a partner’s motives. Further, as for the single man, they must stop assuming that every woman is highly “experienced in sex,” and can’t wait to jump in the sack with the first man who pulls on his “Jimmy Johnson.”
For god’s sake, yes, she might very well look like the ultimate goddess; tall, radiantly beautiful, shapely, and exuding with pure sensuality. Yet, that is just a gift bestowed on her by life’s Creator, or through her gene pool. She may still be a virgin or maybe had one or two sexual experiences which resulted in a nosedive encounter, if you know what I mean.
Now being completely repulsed by the whole idea of sex with an unproven stranger who lacks the ability to stand at attention on command. She has now erected barriers to sex. And let’s be honest, not all women are blown away by the macho man persona. That over aggressive pride in one’s masculinity. She as many men want to gaze upon the beautifully made human body absent the rough and tough tattoos and body piercings, to experience the gift(s) of life without the many mind-boggling distractions and the aura of pure masculinity absent kindness and a sweet disposition.
She wants to be in touch with the utmost of gentle strokes of his hands, and the loving yet seductive gaze of his eyes, as she sees and feel the transformation of his nature. An evolution unintrusive by add-ons — only [his] raw, vibrant and subduing self. It should further be said that a man first impression of a women is purely visual: Being aroused initially by a woman’s complete packaging—all her physical attributes from head to toe.
Case in point, for me, I desire a woman that’s naturally beautiful, confident, and knows her true self, and is unapologetic about her natural presence (providing it’s not too hideous). As a matter of fact, [I] desire the woman who embraces herself, absent the add-ons that senselessly modifies her real beauty for the flimsy and unwelcoming distractions. A woman whose first impression is profound and intrinsically involved, magical, and engaging—rather than toying with realism through the lens of gothic or surrealism: an attempt to bridge together reality and an abstract version of herself — to the rational juxtaposition of her natural-self.
An ideal (to alter one’s self toward the more surrealistic expression of natural beauty), would ultimately decrease all possibilities toward maintaining a long-term and meaningful relationship—at least for me. Its just got to be real by both of us for a serious [never ending] relational encounter. Placing all cards on the table and go for it with eyes open or closed. In other words, trusting one another totally.
Don’t just jump right in to the sexual act, have fun kissing, touching, and laughing. It will not only heighten the overall experience, but it will help to solidify the relationship for a long-term. And remember, “if it’s feels good to you, it’s good for you” — Sometimes!
For the male and female, please understand that sensuality, love, and genuine romance does [not] begin and end with the man’s or woman’s sexual organs: his penis/scrotum or her vagina/clitoris. Important? Yes, but sensuality, emotional attraction, deep sexual feelings and intimacy — does not initiate in those fiery and sensitive areas of the body alone. The more robust, advantageous, and long-lasting relationships — coupled with shared experiences — starts within the soul (the inner sanctum of the human spirit) and then it expands to the external parts of the body of both participants in a wholesome, harmonious, and in an enduring manner.
Once the spirit has been satisfied, then and only then, will the physical aspects kick in for a more exhilarating encounter. Subsequently, reaching all five of the senses: sound, touch, smell, sight, and taste by way of physical contact — touching and placing your bodied close and in-line with each others. Prompting both of you to begin kissing, hugging, touching, and using that fleshy, muscular, smooth and silky, wet and soft organ in both of your mouths for a mutually seductive, gentle tongue exploration. (The licking, swallowing, looking, blowing, and following your creative and naturally- instinctual “erotic” imagination toward sexual fulfillment.)
How does her body feel? Is it tender to the touch — soft and silky smooth as you glide your hands ever so slowly up and down her beautifully designed, and well-proportioned contour of her extraordinary legs and inner thighs? What is it like to navigate your thoughts and hands, simultaneously, in the direction of her major erogenous zone seated in the mid-section of her beautifully made body? Does it stimulate your core and sexually arouse you by invoking the unrelenting throbbing of one’s nature in conjunction with her all-encompassing and dramatic body movements? Almost like being locked in a sultry midnight sexually inspired rhythmic “Rumba” dance. (The dance of love, which requires a serious chemistry among partners.) It’s the desire to be alone and fully enjoying and wanting each other’s company — fully naked and unintrusive by anyone other than each other. Wow… what a visual and physical display of true affection, and unyielding passionate love making.
When you communicate with one another, how does the voice present itself? Is your voice demanding in a sexy and non-intimidating fashion — being sexually controlling — which a woman can appreciate? Or, is it too frigid and weak in a way that might turn her off? What about the manner in which one moves about the room, is it compelling? As both the female and male have the need to be drawn into a sexual encounter by their mate in a sexually suggestive and a totally stimulating way. These are things to consider in order to embellish a sexual encounter and strengthen a relationship.
When loving one another, the male and female possess an in depth and significant yearning to share their love, and to physically grasp one another — pulling each other closer while slowly ingesting one another’s intoxicating natural aroma from their carnal bodies as they become deeply and methodically stimulated with each other’s warm to hot and steamy bodies.
It presents an irresistible urge to do the unexpected. That perfunctory sexual instinct that raises the hairs and one’s erotic desire in anticipation of the mutual gratification of their joint senses and physical encounter. However, before I get into my all-encompassing take on relationships, let me just say that sensuality for both the man and woman does not stop at one’s beauty or being handsome. Neither does it revolve around the shapely body, height or any other physical attribute of a woman’s or man’s anatomy.
It comes from within and sometimes can’t be explained. It’s a natural phenomenon that just serendipitously occurs. It possess the ability to lure a person into your grip through the sheer aura within you, which has nothing to do with one’s physical characteristics.
Specifically, it’s the way you make the other person feel that’s the captivating, alluring, and the essential component of sensuality and the unexplained mystique. (The attitude of mystery and respect around someone’s spirituality.) It’s a study that will have to be reexamined in a future article. Which now presents a good “segue” to my actual experience with a very special woman and her response to me. I will be somewhat brief and may have to continue in another issue.
I’ve always considered myself an average man with a healthy and normal sexual desire when it comes to a woman. I have always taken courtship very serious. When looking for a woman, I am desperately seeking someone who I am perfectly yoked with because everything thereafter is predicated on our blending together as one unique body, harmonizing on an educational, spiritual and a sensual journey. It is an extraordinary journey and if done correctly, it will last a lifetime.
The woman I’m speaking of is the one I called my Queen. She had alluring and pensive eyes. Her teeth were milk white and shaped to perfection, and her dark brown complexion was perfect — blemish and body art free. She wore no physical embellishments such as nose, eye, or tongue rings that would distract me from her remarkable pleasantry. She, my extraordinary goddess was simply made in the beautiful image bestowed on her during birth, and so was I for her as she demanded I be.
She was all legs, beautifully molded and rendered to perfection: separating out all impurities. I just loved to watch her walk or sit in front of me with her legs crossed as they presented themselves as a piece of artwork. I couldn’t take my eyes off them for a second. They were likened to a relief sculpture by the famous Italian sculptor of the Renaissance period, Michelangelo, if you can imagine. Her breast was a sculptured masterpiece and calculated to unquestionable dimensions. She enticed me towards her by way of her eye-catching, sensual blackened and perky nipples that screamed for my attention to her perfectly “natural” rounded buttock that shouted hello to me, and me alone with every step she took.
I could feel the blood rushing throughout my body, and especially in the groin section. The reverberation of the boiling femoral blood vessels along my instrument persisted long after she left my sight… as part of her had been absorbed into my flesh and my mental psyche: both conscious and unconscious. She telepathically directed my body’s reaction towards her physical manifestation, and it was exhilaratingly explosive. A true awaking of my metaphysical yearning for her complete self—alone… as we both lie together in bed enthralled in passionate pillow talk and steamy physical foreplay. It was an idealistic perception and dream of sexual arousal and a strong desire for heated sexual activity, which ultimately came true as she entered the sanctuary of my robust and vivid thoughts—which was quite comforting as well as welcoming.
She was tall (approximately 5’8″), with a small to medium frame, accompanied by a long and sensual body that was magical. She turn heads every time we went out on the town. She respected and loved me, and I knew it. I equally loved and respected her as well. This was well before we had a physical encounter. She was my childhood dream of what an ideal woman, a lady should be.
Although I initially wanted badly to take her in my arms and pull her body close to me, as I glide my hands in a smooth continuous motion up and along her strong, firm but soft, and magnificent legs and inner thighs. I waited for a sign from her to signal to me that she was ready to accept my sweet, slow, throbbing (as if dancing to music) fleshly offerings. To be continued.
You may be ready for the horizontal mambo as soon as you two embrace, however, it would be prudent for you to wait for your loving partner. You will know when the time is right, as she squeeze your body passionately or take a hold of your hand pulling it in the direction of the confirming destination.
For me, Sophie, the co-writer of the article, I love a man who knows how to relax and spoil me. Not with material things: money or lavish vacations as Bruce mentioned above. I am self-contained and find no attachment to the mundane things of this world either. What I look for in my King, is someone who enjoys the simpler things that life has to offer. A man who enjoys a long walk in the park on sunny or rainy day (absent the thunder and lightning of course).
Born in November, I am a winter baby and like the brisk or cold weather and the great outdoors. For me, there is nothing better then for my man and I to layer ourselves up, and go out to New York during the Holiday Season and window shop. Maybe taken in a theatrical performance or a good movie, and then have dinner and return home. At home, we would in front of the fireplace with a glass of our favorite wine — with the lights darkened — soft music in the background at a whisper so that we can hear each other’s comments without distraction or interruption.
We then discussed our day and the mutual experiences we both gleamed from our evening excursion. We laughed, joked, and laughed again and again. It was the perfect setting. As we both would stare into each other’s eyes. He then reached across and grabbed me by my waist and pulled me towards him. I elevated my head towards his signaling my agreement with his intentions, and he kissed me passionately over and over again.
I felt as if my heart was beating in sync with the melodic and rhythmic patterns of the sounds of the classical musical rendition of Camerata Antonio Lucio’s; Vivaldi: The Four Seasons in which he selected to play specifically for me. (Which was another thing I adored about my King — his ability to learn and try different things and introduce them to me.) We held each other for what appeared to be hours and indulged each other with complete admiration, respect, and lovely foreplay.
I consider myself sensual and a romantic woman, but he was more empowering as he held my body firmly, gazed into my eyes and reinforce his dedication to me with those all enchanting three words: “I Love You,” and I immediately knew he really meant it. I believe a woman require a man to utter those words periodically as we (women) are emotionally driven individuals that do require to be refreshed with loving reinforcement from our partner. I also desire man that’s family oriented, humorous, and dedicated to making me feel safe, independent, and content.
I looked for a partner who had sharp wit and “drama free.” I am somewhat shy but highly sensual, and in time I will warm up to the right individual. So, when I was looking for a man, I wanted a person who was not too over bearing. One who knows how to treat and stimulate me without making me feel as if I was an object, but part of his inner-and-outer-self. I wanted to feel him melt like butter into my body cavity as if I was in a dream, and as I woke slowly… I would feel his manly torso complete me repeatedly… in a respectful but animalistic, thunderous, and exhilarating manner. (The relationship exchange to be continued in the upcoming issue.)
Be your trueself absent the “sometimes” disturbing and intrusive body art and piercings that tends to blind one to the semmetry of the natural bodies. You can always add them later or try a henna (which last approximately one to three weeks) to see if you really want a longterm tattoo.
A VALUABLE NOTE BY BRUCE O. : I can’t say this enough: Always be respectful, but keep children, family and friends out of your relationship. People become jealous and desire to live vicariously through your connection with your significant other. Don’t allow them to spoil what you have — to your joining in with their misery. Love each other and have fun with each other “in and beyond” the bedroom. Finally, when things start to go awry: communicate, communicate, communicate. Synergy is about an “Open Loop Communications system that provides understanding and calm to an overly volatile dispute.”
When talking to one another cease and desist the blame game and the abusive arguments or everything else negative will follow. And unfortunately, the damage to your relationship will become irreversible for lack of a levelheaded conversation about the issues. (Regrettably, never to be undone.) Now your hasty and angered decision(s) have become a regrettable choice on both person’s part. So sad… as in life, we get one bite of the metaphorical apple. What a shame to throw it away for such utter nonsense.
Both parties might sit alone for a while, and think about what occurred that brought you to the point of unrest. Then sit with one another and talk about it. Most likely, you both will realize how foolish the altercation was and re-establish your relationship right on the spot. (Keep in mind that make-up sex is the bomb!) [Be the BUTO spirit and love thy partner. Keep in mind when your female feel safe in her space with you, it creates a feeling of absolution, peace, and safety. And when your male partner feel he is being respected by you, he is more apt to do the right-thing. It take both to form an unbreakable relationship.]